My mom sent me an interesting e-mail today and I have decided to make it the subject of today's blog post. I had already given some thought as to writing about this at a later time, but today seems like the RIGHT time, so here we go:
Question:
Why do people get involved in same-sex relationships? Question back: "Why do people get involved in heterosexual relationships?"
Answer:
Simply, because they want to. Most of the time, it is because they are in love.
For me and the one that I love, this was certainly true. It is also still true to this day. I am deeply in love with the person I am with and frankly I believe that my commitment to her is much deeper than that of most heterosexual couples.
And on that note, let me say that it always baffles me as to why the same people who would deny my partner and I the right to marry would have no problem being unfaithful to their very own husband or wife. Divorce rates among heterosexuals are quite high, yet very many of the same-sex couples that I know are very committed and faithful. Wouldn't those that are truly committed be the same ones who should marry?
Marriage is, after all, suppose to be about faithfulness and loving each other "to death do us part.."
How many heterosexual people do you know who live like that? Ask yourself this question and be honest..
I did indeed fall in L-O-V-E with the person that I have been with for almost seven years now. You might be surprised to know that it wasn't in the beginning a physical attraction. That came later--much, much later.. We actually "fell" for each other at first by e-mail-- later by phone. I didn't even know what she LOOKED like for quite some time, nor had she seen my picture. She and I simply talked, shared and felt a bond developing between us that we could not explain. We talked about it a lot in those first days and were amazed. We simply had to "be with" each other in some way. It was already a feeling of "I can't live without you."
Ours was a whirlwind courtship but that could be said for just about any couple. We were many states apart but finally met about three months after we first chatted online. I can only describe our meeting as "magic." It was as if we had known each other forever and were just waiting to find each other again. For those that believe in past lives, I would have to say that I felt very much like I had known her for all eternity. Perhaps we have always been together in one way or another. It's something to ponder..
To say we instantly liked each other would be an understatement. Quite honestly we had to be physically close to each other all the time from the moment we met. I remember the tears when we had to leave each other finally after that first meeting. She had to go back home and so did I. We did go back, but we didn't stay apart. We didn't stop talking either and the bond grew deeper.
I have to admit that although there was no physical (sexual) attraction for me at first, there was very much a feeling that I had a "crush" on her. I blushed when she smiled at me and she made me feel all funny inside. I thought she was beautiful (in a very non-sexual way), cool, and so much fun to be around. We got together again about six weeks after our first meeting--this time at her house. But it was not before we admitted our feelings to each other. And what an incredible relief to finally SAY it. I remember the struggle that we had trying to find the words to tell the other how we felt at that time. We danced all around it but never could never quite just admit it. Finally I think she couldn't take it anymore and said.."Ok..here it is.." And there is was; thankfully, we have never looked back. I remember the first time we told each other that we loved each other..It gave me goosebumps then and still does now. Yes, I am still in love seven years later.
Question:
Why do people get involved in same-sex relationships? Question back: "Why do people get involved in heterosexual relationships?"
Answer:
Simply, because they want to. Most of the time, it is because they are in love.
For me and the one that I love, this was certainly true. It is also still true to this day. I am deeply in love with the person I am with and frankly I believe that my commitment to her is much deeper than that of most heterosexual couples.
And on that note, let me say that it always baffles me as to why the same people who would deny my partner and I the right to marry would have no problem being unfaithful to their very own husband or wife. Divorce rates among heterosexuals are quite high, yet very many of the same-sex couples that I know are very committed and faithful. Wouldn't those that are truly committed be the same ones who should marry?
Marriage is, after all, suppose to be about faithfulness and loving each other "to death do us part.."
How many heterosexual people do you know who live like that? Ask yourself this question and be honest..
I did indeed fall in L-O-V-E with the person that I have been with for almost seven years now. You might be surprised to know that it wasn't in the beginning a physical attraction. That came later--much, much later.. We actually "fell" for each other at first by e-mail-- later by phone. I didn't even know what she LOOKED like for quite some time, nor had she seen my picture. She and I simply talked, shared and felt a bond developing between us that we could not explain. We talked about it a lot in those first days and were amazed. We simply had to "be with" each other in some way. It was already a feeling of "I can't live without you."
Ours was a whirlwind courtship but that could be said for just about any couple. We were many states apart but finally met about three months after we first chatted online. I can only describe our meeting as "magic." It was as if we had known each other forever and were just waiting to find each other again. For those that believe in past lives, I would have to say that I felt very much like I had known her for all eternity. Perhaps we have always been together in one way or another. It's something to ponder..
To say we instantly liked each other would be an understatement. Quite honestly we had to be physically close to each other all the time from the moment we met. I remember the tears when we had to leave each other finally after that first meeting. She had to go back home and so did I. We did go back, but we didn't stay apart. We didn't stop talking either and the bond grew deeper.
I have to admit that although there was no physical (sexual) attraction for me at first, there was very much a feeling that I had a "crush" on her. I blushed when she smiled at me and she made me feel all funny inside. I thought she was beautiful (in a very non-sexual way), cool, and so much fun to be around. We got together again about six weeks after our first meeting--this time at her house. But it was not before we admitted our feelings to each other. And what an incredible relief to finally SAY it. I remember the struggle that we had trying to find the words to tell the other how we felt at that time. We danced all around it but never could never quite just admit it. Finally I think she couldn't take it anymore and said.."Ok..here it is.." And there is was; thankfully, we have never looked back. I remember the first time we told each other that we loved each other..It gave me goosebumps then and still does now. Yes, I am still in love seven years later.
So after much soul-searching and talking about what was happening to us, we were at last free to admit that we were in love. Never mind the fact that she had been married to a man for 17 years and so had I. In fact, I had three children that I was raising at the time although my relationship with their father had long deteriorated.
So for us, it was love that brought us together. We were falling in love just like anyone else would. There was no difference in our love and that of a heterosexual couple-nothing except for the fact that we were both women. Imagine that!
I think that there is a perception today by many people that anyone who is interested in someone of the same sex is interested in ONLY sex or that aspect of the relationship. Somehow we are perceived as people without morals or somehow depraved or wicked. It bothers me quite a lot that we are all lumped into the same category and most of the time without even being known personally. I have to ask the question: "Are all heterosexual couples only interested in each other for sex?" "Are they all heterosexuals depraved in some way?" The answer of course is no and there is absolutely no difference with homosexual relationships. No two can possibly be alike.
So are people "born" gay? This was the subject of my mom's email to me today. Stay tuned and tomorrow I will explore that very question.
And by the way, feel free to post your comments and thoughts on any of these posts. All I ask is that you be respectful and polite. Honesty is not a bad thing, but how you present it is another.
Goodnight! :)
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