When pain walks in

Sequel to my last post:

What do you do when hurt or pain walks into your life? When true heartache comes in and makes you feel like you could sit and cry for hours and even then, you would not stop? I'm not being dramatic here--I think that we have all been there at some point in our lives..

Whether you are heterosexual, homosexual or bi-sexual, there will always be pain or hurt that comes into your relationships. Believe it or not, everything is exactly the same for us. We go through tough times as well as happy ones.

Just like anyone else..

How do you support the one you love when someone has made them feel very bad about themselves or their relationship? It's a hard question with no easy answers..

Of course, I want to do all the normal things that people do--like take her into my arms and kiss her and make it better..

But what if I cannot? What if even by doing that, that I cannot ease the sorrow? It leaves me feeling frustrated, alone and so sad..

I do not want to invade her privacy here and state who it was that made her feel so bad. But I will say that it was someone(s) that she loves very much and feels close to...

And for me, that makes it all the worse..

I wonder to myself how someone can be so insensitive, so unkind and so judgmental..

Such a struggle it is to want to be loved, accepted and approved of when what you get is exactly the opposite. Right now I feel so angry, so sad and so hurt for the one that I love that I cannot even express it. I want to take the people who hurt her and shake them! I want to scream in their face that they have no right to do what they have done. But I have to ask myself, would it really do any good? Would it really make them see things any differently?

Sadly, I don't think that it would.

These people are so wrapped up in themselves that they can't bother to think about HER or her feelings at all.

I have said it many times and I will say it again--it really amazes me that certain people believe that they can tell others how to live and how to be. It's also amazing to me that those same people cannot fathom that two people could possibly really love each other for no other reason than that they do.

Yes, we do fall in love just like everyone else. Is is really such an impossibility?

Right now I have to admit that I hate what someone is doing to the person I love so much. Why can't they be content to live their own lives and let us live ours? What do they have to cause so much hurt and pain?
What do they have to make her cry? What do they have to interfere with our happiness? I want to run outside and scream it to the sky.. WHY?????????????????????? WHY????????????

I try to tell myself that it is ignorance, rudeness and that obviously anyone who would do this has to be very messed up in their own minds.. To cause such pain, how can you be anything other than selfish? We may not all always see things the same way or even live the same way in this life but where is love? real love? The kind that is not hurtful or cruel?

Here is what the Bible has to say about love:

(1 Corinthians 13)

The Supremacy of Love

1If I speak in the languages of humans and angels but have no love, I have become a reverberating gong or a clashing cymbal. 2If I have the gift of prophecy and can understand all secrets and every form of knowledge, and if I have absolute faith so as to move mountains but have no love, I am nothing. 3Even if I give away everything that I have and sacrifice myself,[a] but have no love, I gain nothing.

4 Love is always patient;13

love is always kind;

love is never envious

or arrogant with pride.

Nor is she conceited,

5 and she is never rude;

she never thinks just of herself

or ever get annoyed.

She never is resentful;

6 is never glad with sin,

but always glad to side with truth,

whene'er the truth should win.[b]

7 She bears up under everything,

believes the best in all,

there is no limit to her hope,

and she will never fall.

8Love never fails. Now if there are prophecies, they will be done away with. If there are languages, they will cease. If there is knowledge, it will be done away with. 9For what we know is incomplete and what we prophesy is incomplete. 10But when what is complete[c] comes, then what is incomplete will be done away with.

11When I was a child, I spoke like a child, thought like a child, and reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up my childish ways. 12Now we see only an indistinct image in a mirror, but then we will be face to face. Now what I know is incomplete, but then I will know fully, even as I have been fully known.

13Right now three things remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love.

Even though we will never obtain this perfect Christ-like love, I think we should strive for it. I only wish that certain others thought the same thing.

The people that hurt us will probably never see this blog but I wish that they could..
Perhaps one day something will open their eyes and make them see. Maybe they will stop and think about what they do or what they say. Maybe they will read the passage from the Bible above and it will sink deep into their hearts..

Or maybe not..

But I do believe that you reap what you sow and that what goes around comes around. That's a biblical principle too..

Healing hurt sometimes is so hard. Right now I long to heal the woman that I love and yet I cannot.

All I can do is give it to God..

At least, HE cares..