My First Blog-Ever!!

Well, can't let True have all the fun, can I? This is the very first time I have blogged in my entire life, and I'm thrilled.

First, thanks to my loving partner True for setting this up and getting it started. I admit, I've been pretty lax in not contributing, but have read her blogs, and sometimes feel that they are so good, that I have nothing to add. On top of that, I'm usually busy as hell between work and grad school, so that doesn't help much (plus the fact that I've got two farms to tend on Facebook!).

Anyway, I felt that it was time to finally contribute to this. I read True's blog yesterday about me, and it honestly made me cry.. I'm not gonna get all mushy here, but really must say how much those words meant to me, and that we truly love each other very much.

I have had a wonderful time being a second mommy to the kids; especially the youngest, since he's been around much more, and we, for some reason, instantly bonded. He is now a fine young man, and I am deeply proud of him.

This whole discussion about family in the many forms that they take has prompted me to take a moment to totally bitch about something that really pisses me off--weren't expecting that segue, were you??

Last month, True and I went back to my home town for my darling nephew and godson's 3rd birthday party. It was a blast, except for 2 really irritating things:

1. My sister (mom of the darling boy) is married to an A-1, prime asshole who would not allow us to stay at the house because we might confuse the 3 year old. Get this-- I'm welcome to stay at the house when I come alone, but not when True is with me--guess I turn into a lesbian or something when she's with me, go figure..

2. My brother, who I love dearly, has decided to join the asshole brigade by making it clear that he does not like my relationship with True--can I hear a "Tough Shit" from the audience, please?

Well, let me deal with problem #1 first. The brother-in-law is a complete twit and while he is busy ponitificating about my immorality, he is busy improving his mind and spirit with such high-brow shows as Family Guy and South Park. He doesn't have the intellect, drive, or gumption to find his own ass with both hands and a flashlight, so I'll stay in a hotel, but I can guarentee ya that if he ever comes down to my neck of the woods, he can't even come in the house to use the bathroom. I don't care if he is suffering from the worst case of the shits from dysentery, he can shit his pants for all I care...

As for #2, I have no idea what the hell my brother's problem is. True has done nothing to him but be polite, by dear brother makes a point of absolutely ignoring True and making us both feel like shit. I don't care that his wife is neurotic (although very sweet and lovable), I don't really think it's any of my damned business. My brother is a successful, driven, and good guy in general, so this pompous attitude is really bringing me down.

So, let's take a look at 1 & 2 together now. They are polar opposites in terms of intellect, personality, and spousal skills, but what do they have in common?

Simple: They are both being judgemental, close-minded and are meddling into our lives.
This lack of ability to mind their own damned business is the crux of the problem. I do not judge them on their choices, actions, or shortcomings. I have always met them with open arms, even when I disagree with them. I have never shunned them, never treated them as second class citizens even when they've acted like first class asshats.
I just wish that I could get the same treatment. I was married for 13 years before my being with True, and yes, it is a same sex relationship, but I'm still the same person! Still the same sister and sister in law who loved, cared, supported, and was always there for these 2 guys, and somehow, I'm now less-than to them.

This really hurts, and what hurts worse is that True gets the same shitty deal that I do from these guys. How would they like it if I reacted to everything that they did that put my panties in a twist? Why the hell is it that they are justified in treating us like shit for the crime of being in a loving, committed relationship?

I struggle with how to deal with them. For the brother in law, it's easier, I just ignore his fat ass, but I happen to really dig my brother, and hate that this is going on. I imagine that a confrontation would get us nowhere, so I may just suggest some heavy therapy for him.

In the meantime, I will go on loving my partner, and living my life. I love her, my friends, and my family, and treat others as I want to be treated.

If that is wrong, then there ain't much I can do 'bout it, is there?